Advocate Deepa learnt this fact in the High Court on Thursday, when she appeared for Chitra, who sought divorce from her husband Vijay Kumar. Kumar and Chitra, a techie couple, have a daughter who studies in Class II. However, they quarrel over petty issues.
During the hearing, Justice K Bhakthavatsala told Deepa: “Since you are not married, you won’t understand the nuances of a relationship. Such cases should be handled by senior advocates who are married. They understand how much happiness is involved in being together.”
He said fights over trivial issues are common among couples. “Please don’t use such cases for your personal gain… Try to patch up the couple and ask them to live happily by forgetting mistakes. By doing so, you will get married to a good man soon,” he added.
Justice Bhakthavatsala told the couple: “Many problems can be solved at a personal level. This (seeking divorce) can happen in the West, but don’t make India one among them (Western countries).” Kumar said he was ready to live with Chitra, but her parents were asking him to leave his parents.
The judge asked Kumar’s counsel M T Nanaiah to take them to a hotel and try for reconciliation. Though they agreed for a settlement, Chitra put several conditions to live with her husband.
On learning that Chitra has spent most of her time abroad, the judge told her that marriage had a different meaning in India.
He asked them to bring their daughter for the next hearing, and adjourned the case till Tuesday.